How To Create The Best Relationship You'll Ever Have




Who is your best friend? Do you treat your best friend better than other people in your life? What are the things you think about when you think about your best friend? Do they go something like this?

I value you
I appreciate you
I respect you
I recognize your deservability
I have time for you
I listen to you
I don’t judge you
You are important to me

Most of us feel this way about our best friends. They help us through tough times, they listen to our problems even if we continually repeat unwanted life experiences, they encourage us to see the best in ourselves and they nurture our self image. We need really good friends in our life as they are like beautiful flowers, beautiful and wonderful to be around, but if ignored and treated badly, they can wither away and die.

Often when we are in our darkest places our friends step up and can become a lifeline to wellbeing. Have you ever stopped and realized who is your best friend? I hope the answer is yes and I also hope you have realized that the best person to be your best friend is you. You are the one who you spend the most time with. You are the one who feels your pain and joy. You are the one who can take you by the hand and lead you through dark and scary places and will sit with you no matter what is happening in your life. The true you will not judge or belittle you, the true you will not criticize you, the true you is patient and supportive. The true you loves you no matter what. Now that’s a real true friend. Have you met the true you? If you are not that acquainted with this amazing being I suggest you take some time every day if possible to get acquainted. We all have that friend inside us waiting to be our very best friend.

With a friend like that how would you treat them? Would you be angry at them for repeating what you may see as mistakes? Would you ignore their support? Would you close your ears to their love? I think not. But often that’s what we do. We berate ourselves where a true friend would not. We are mean and unloving where a true friend would not be.

Watch how you are a friend to others and turn it around on yourself. Be more encouraging to yourself. Be more forgiving to yourself. Be more supportive even if it appears you take one step forward and two steps backward. Be patient with yourself. What is that you love to do? Do you love to go for long walks and appreciate nature? Do you love going to read? Do you love spa days? Do you love fun, fast exciting days?

Whatever it is that you love, spend that time you your new best friend, you, and discover more about yourself. Some people don’t like time alone and I feel that is because they have forgotten the art of communication with self. Give yourself a facial, take the dog for a run, arrange for the kids to be out of the house for a few hours or take yourself to your favorite place and spend time with you. Treat yourself the way you would your best friend. Nurture your relationship with you and pay yourself the attention you deserve. Make time for yourself, you’re worth it.

When you start to be more of a best friend to yourself you will feel stronger you will feel more deserving and you will see all areas of your life improve. Look in the mirror and say the things in the beginning of this article to yourself. Repeat them daily for thirty days and feel the difference inside.

Be the best friend you deserve as friends are precious indeed.

Gaynor Parke
Advanced Success Life Coaching


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